Remember
We come to this plane of existence in full remembrance of who and what we are, but we quickly learn to forget, and cling to the false reality of this place. Each month, I offer a reminder of the ever enduring Spirit that is YOU!
- Wiah
Remembers for
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Where Do You Live?
December 21, 2016 -
You Play You Pay!
November 4, 2016 -
Direction???
October 20, 2016 -
One Opportunity / One Moment – This Life
September 6, 2016 -
Love & Money!!!
August 23, 2016 -
STOP!!!!
July 5, 2016 -
Why is it so hard to manage these days? & Why does it seem the world is going crazy? – From the Ghedee point of view:
June 16, 2016 -
What Is The Real Value Of Anything?
June 3, 2016 -
Spiritual Bypassing AVOIDANCE IN HOLY DRAG by Robert Augustus Masters, PhD – Do you engage in constant Spiritual Bypassing?
May 3, 2016 -
The Puzzle of Relationships
April 11, 2016 -
Respect The Choices Of Others
March 2, 2016 -
Reliable, Trustworthy, Honest
February 2, 2016 -
MONSTERS
January 5, 2016
The Puzzle of Relationships
Each of us is a puzzle piece with unique colouring and edges. When two people come together, the first step is seeing how their colours match or complement each other and how their edges fit together. Depending on the angle and orientation, there will be many ways in which the 2 pieces fit together, and many ways they won’t. This is the work of relationships – we must each examine our colours and edges to determine what needs to be adjusted or changed. This compromise is necessary in order to fit seamlessly with the other person.
Many feel that because a fit is not automatic, it means that the relationship is lost. Or they feel that the other person should do all the adjusting, while they change nothing. Or they simply run away, unwilling to do any of the work that’s necessary. Many great relationships never have a chance because we don’t take the time to do the personal work it takes to fit in with another person.
In very rare cases, two puzzle pieces come together and instantly fit seamlessly. Their colours match and are perfectly complementary, their edges dovetail one another, and their only real work is how to stay fitted together. Though many of us expect this to be the norm, it’s not. The normal case requires change and adjustment from both parties.
After the puzzle pieces come together and truly fit, the second step is the work of staying together. This step is ongoing and has immeasurable benefits. As puzzle pieces, our colours and edges will change over the course of our life. Once two puzzle pieces fit, the second phase of the work is to stay fitted together through all the changes in both colours and edges.
Great partnerships / relationships / marriages don’t just happen by luck or accident. They are the result of a consistent investment of time in adjusting and adapting your colours and edges through mindfulness, thoughtfulness, intimacy, compromise, balance, mutual respect and an unwavering commitment to staying fitted together.
Oh, and great sex is the icing on the cake for a GREAT intimate relationship. :-)
Comments
It’s interesting, the balance, how little we value the time and energy we put on average into committed relationships in our modern culture. In the US marital households with children went from 40 percent of our population in 1970 to 20 percent in 2011. This is the foundation cause of single parent household and the nuclear family that supports the single parent. Making it further difficult to find that new someone to date and pair up with simply because we do not have enough time or energy to spread around to create deeper meaningful relationships that really last. But in the case that when the timing is right and two people meet all of these odds have no bearing on the how long the relationship will last, not just because the two are ready to commit but their foundation communities unite and also support and value the relationship. When two true hearts meet and resonate that vibration into the universe it echoes back holding the two together but not too tight, just enough for personal freedom and personal growth that can be added back into the mix.
How long the union last is based on how committed each individual is to maintaining the union. :)
Wiah, this is great and right on time…as my focus is creating a family of my own…husband, etc. Thank you!!!!