HOLDING ON…

Holding on seems to be a pastime of many of us. We hold on to childhood disputes, old grudges, jobs, specific ways of thinking or being etc. Even when we try to let go or change, it doesn’t seem to quite happen and we continue to wrestle with this “demon”, whatever it is. This is because there is a pleasure or a comfort that balances the pain, which speaks to a certain truth we hold about ourselves and the world around us. For example, we may hold on to childhood disputes or grudges, even though we are no longer children. Besides the perceived facts of the situation (the pain) there is a strong feeling of justification (pleasure) that keeps us holding on. We never let go of our feelings and thoughts around these past situations, and allow them to change, transform and grow, though we allow ourselves to grow and change in other ways. If we truly let go of the story, our justifications also disappear. The same goes for anything we hold on to that is causing us pain or distress. Our justification, or the pleasurable side of it, is what we are unwilling to let go of and allow to change and transform like everything else.

Let go of your justifications (pleasure) in each situation and change, transformation, and life become much easier to endure.

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